Trauma Bonding and its effect on an individual's mental health and wellbeing. What is Trauma Bonding? Relational trauma is the connection a victim has in their relationship with their abuser, especially patterns of abuse. True trauma bonds are created through a cycle of abuse and positive reinforcement. After each abuse incident, the abuser expresses his love and regret and tries to make the victim feel safe and feel that he needs a relationship. Traumatic relationships are one reason why leaving a bad situation can be c...